Dear Janice, I found explicit text messages on my husband’s Apple watch.

It’s usually strapped to him 24/7 but when he took it off for a shower the other day it flashed, and I thought I would check his miles and calories but was absolutely horrified to see lots of very explicit messages. I’m not very techie but managed to look find messages which were definitely directed to him, and his sent messages to her.

She kept referring to him as her handsome hunk (HH), and what she wanted to do with him. I’m disgusted, but don’t know how to confront him. Liz.

Dear Liz, you could torment him and start referring to him as your handsome hunk (HH), and watch him squirm, but I imagine at this stage you are too upset and angry for mind games.

I’m sorry to say this but I can’t think of any reasonable excuse your husband could concoct to explain away these messages. You can ignore the messages and hope that whatever is going on fades, or you can confront him full on and repeat what you have read. He will almost certainly deny exchanging such messages, but remember, this isn’t third-party gossip, these are messages you have read first-hand.

Liz, you can’t unsee what you have seen, which means no matter his excuses, your relationship has changed. How you move forward with him (if you want to), is up to you. Breaking up will hopefully be a last resort but trusting him again will take a lot of time and effort, so good luck.

Dear Janice, I have been with my girlfriend for almost two years now. We get on great (I thought we did anyway), but now I have my concerns that she fancies my best pal Robbie. As we socialise in a foursome, I was really pleased to see how well they both got on. However, my girlfriend talks in her sleep, which I’ve always found quite cute, but recently she was sleep talking and mentioned Robbie’s name a few times. The latest was “Oh, Robbie.” Mumble mumble mumble, and then ”Don’t stop.”

I lightheartedly challenged her and she said she had no recollection of anything, and made a joke saying she must have been dreaming of Robbie Williams who was her teenage crush. But I’m not convinced. I now dread her going to sleep. Jack.

Dear Jack, I bet she dreads going to sleep now too!

When people find out from a partner that they’ve been talking in their sleep, they often get nervous that they revealed some deep, dark secret, or that something is wrong with them. It’s unnerving to say the least to discover that you uttered something in your sleep, especially when you have no recollection of doing so.

There is no evidence that it’s your mate she sleep talks about, so unless you have anything more concrete to go on, I would get on with enjoying your relationship. However, perhaps until your suspicions subside, you should both give your mate Robbie a bit of a wide berth. I’m sure you’ll think of excuses.

In the meantime, please don’t lie awake listening to every word that she mumbles whilst she is asleep, or you will drive yourself mad. It’s more than likely a coincidence that your mate is called Robbie and her teenage crush is called Robbie too.

Two-thirds of people sleep talk at some point in their lives and alcohol, caffeine and stress can all be triggers, so perhaps chat to her about this before her Robbie Williams crush ruins your happy relationship.

Dear Janice, I have been harbouring a secret for 45 years. The worry, stress and anxiety surrounding it has been with me all this time.

My husband passed away a few months back and I wonder if now is the time to tell my son that his dad was not his biological father. I never told my husband the truth and even although him and our son weren’t in any way alike, neither of them suspected. My husband was a brilliant dad so there never seemed any point in upsetting their close relationship. Our son worshipped his dad, so I’m wondering if there is any point now in confessing my secret. Patricia.

Dear Patricia, there are secrets and there are secrets, and this is indeed a huge one.

No wonder you have stressed all these years. There are many reasons not to tell him, but there are many more reasons why you should. Genetics, identity, siblings, for starters, and I believe it’s morally the right thing to do.

Like you, your son will still be grieving, therefore now isn’t the appropriate time to add to his grief. You need to give him time to come to terms with losing his beloved dad before you confess this life changing news.

I have no doubt he will be bowled over and possibly angry, but l least he will know the truth. Patricia, everyone has a right to such personal information, but be prepared for the questions which will follow. Who is his biological father? Is he alive? Does he know he exists?

Once you have confessed and your son gets his head around the whole situation, you’ll hopefully both be able to move on and maintain the close relationship you have. I hope the outcome is positive.